How to move from reacting to responding and fix your relationships

So we spoke about the difference between reacting and responding. We learned that responding is the way to win and take control of your life.

How do you move from reacting into responding, from victimizing to a mastery?
How do you make sure that nobody will ever influence your feelings unless you consciously choose to be influenced?
How do you change your automatic respond?

When you move from victimizing to mastery, when you start controlling your automatic respond, every relationship you have will dramatically improve, everything you do will have a positive response, you can then take full control over your life.

Here are some of the steps you want to try practicing in your life:

1. Start reading self development books, make sure that everyday, no matter what, you will read at least for one hour (1/2 hour when you wake up & 1.2 hour when you go to sleep)

2. Every time someone "makes you mad", stop and make a note: how do you feel? can you change the way you feel with awareness? did you make a conscious decision to get mad or was it automatic?

3. When you get mad or hurt the best things to do:
- Step away from the conflict, simply take a walk
- Drink a full glass of water
- Go and look at your self in the mirror
- Smile (yes, I know its hard, but try to smile). Smiling releases a chemical in your brain causing you to feel better, its automatic.
- Sit down for 5 minutes, close your eyes and breath in and out 100 times (make sure you don't lose your count)
- Listen to music you love, pick a song that makes you feel good
- Take responsibility over your choice to get hurt or mad and send forgiveness to the other person
- Write a short story from the other persons eyes (pretend to be the other person and write the story as if you where them)
- Spend time walking in nature for 20 minutes

4. Listen to self development audios
On the right side of this screen you'll find links to Jim Rohn website and Earl Nightingale.
Click on the links and find programs that fit your needs.

5. Seek masters and follow their role. Take inventory of who you surround yourself with and ask yourself what kind of influence they have on you? if its negative, choose other friends! I know its hard, but you can try...when you tell the universe you are looking for masters not victims, when you tell the universe you are seeking growth and prosperity and you want people in your life who seek the same, you will get it!

6. Keep reading my blog on a daily basis

Think about it, make some notes and I will see you back here tomorrow...

Committed to your success

with love

Ran Biderman